A Time of Self Reflection. As the events of Wednesday afternoon, February 14, 2018 began to unfold on TV at Stoneman Douglas High School in Parkland, Florida, I
Helping Kids Adjust To A New Home
Moving into a new house can be a stressful life event for the whole family, particularly young children who rely on predictability and find comfort in familiar routines. Other than talking to them about the move and including them in the decision-making process, what can you do to make the experience positive and as stress-free as possible?
Create a bridge
Ask your child to document the move by taking photos of the event from start to finish. Once you’ve moved into your new home, make a point of getting together specifically so you can all work on creating a photo album as a family. The album will serve as a bridge or a way for your children to connect their experiences before and after the move.
Alternatively, give your child a shoebox to fill with mementos from the old house. This can include anything light and portable that you aren’t required to leave behind, like rocks or pressed leaves and flowers from the yard.
Get the kids settled first
Unpack the kids’ rooms first. “The rest of the house may be in chaos and you may have to order take-out, but your child will have a calm, safe space surrounded by her familiar things.
Once the kids return to their usual routines, with their rooms unpacked and their schedules back to normal, they will begin to settle into the new home and start to feel more secure.
Decorate your new home together
Let your kids help you pick out the paint colors for their bedroom walls. Also, let them help you decorate communal spaces like the living room. Younger children can draw a picture of how they want to arrange their rooms, or even create artwork for you to display in the house.
Explore the neighborhood
Use the Pokémon Go craze, or an offline activity like a scavenger hunt, to explore the surrounding area. Pokemon Go’s augmented reality will allow you to visit real locations, including nearby landmarks, and familiarize yourself with your neighborhood.
Invite your neighbors and their kids to participate as well, making this into an opportunity to get to know your community and broaden your children’s social circle as well.
Don’t forget to schedule family time
Scheduling quality time and even individual check-ins with each child is highly recommended. Lavish your kids with attention, giving them a little extra to carry them through this transition.
Karen & Henry Seale